My most painful best girl friend break-up happened about 15 years ago when I sadly realized she cared more about the men in her life then supporting me through a rough patch when the hotels in Thailand were laying of thousands and me being one of them. She offered to give a spare room she had in her apartment to this guy she only knew for about a week over letting me stay there until I found another job. The experience was enough for me to say ‘no more’ after a long emotional conversation and cut the ties that bind.

The sadness I experienced lasted for a full year or more. It felt just the same as when I broke it off with boys; I would look through photos of the two of us together and do a mixture of crying and then laughing while I went over the fun times we had in my head. I even did a Google search and found her social networking sites , her newer ones, to see how she was doing. This only achieved with making me sadder. Each time I did the math and mulled over our last time together, I realized we’d simply changed too much and that this experience was too deep a scar for the both of us to move on. In fact, we both did try, at separate times, to ‘make-up,’ but, as they say, it was just too late. By the time we attempted to get back together, we’d each grown awkward about each other and most likely listened to too much advice from our more well rounded circle of friends.

It appears the best cure for surviving a best-girlfriend break-up is to take stock and look around at all the really good friends we do have. I sometimes am amazed about the girlfriends I do have and feel blessed. I must have known how to properly water and given the right amount of light and nourishment for these great girlfriends to not wither and die when the seasons change.

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